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ARTICLES
Each piece offers thoughtful, attachment-informed insight into real-life challenges—helping you better understand your emotions, your patterns, and your relationships in a way that feels both clear and compassionate.
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Our newsletters bring these insights directly to you, along with timely encouragement, featured resources, and updates from Gilmore & Green. Whether you’re looking for a moment of grounding, a shift in perspective, or tools to support your growth, this space is here to meet you where you are.
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Ministering the Savior’s Way
When the Savior visited the Nephites, He didn't qualify His healing — He invited everyone who was afflicted "in any manner" to come unto Him. That same compassion is our model for ministering today. Those struggling with faith don't need fixing — they need consistent, genuine love. We may not have all the answers, but love builds the bridge that leads souls back to Christ.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 2511 min read


Proven in The Crucible of Adversity
When suffering feels prolonged and purposeless, it's tempting to believe we're alone — or being punished. But just as steel is purified through intense heat, our trials refine and strengthen us. President Eyring reminds us: proving moments aren't evidence the Lord has abandoned us. They're evidence He loves us enough to refine us — and He never walks away.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 2510 min read


Seekers of Truth Ask Questions
What if asking hard questions about faith isn't rebellious — it's essential? The most brilliant minds ask the most questions, and seekers of truth deserve that same freedom. Doubt isn't the enemy of faith; it can be the very doorway to deeper conviction. Through prayer, scripture, journaling, and trusted mentors, questions become the path to peace.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 253 min read


Self-Worth and Embracing Our Divine Identity
There's a meaningful difference between self-esteem and self-worth. Self-esteem measures how we perceive ourselves today — but self-worth reaches deeper, anchoring our value in divine heritage and eternal potential. When we catch glimpses of who we truly are and who we're destined to become, we find the energy and courage to do hard things.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 252 min read


Olympians, Major Athletes, and Surgeons Benefit from Neurofeedback
What if you could train your brain the way athletes train their bodies? Neurofeedback is doing exactly that — helping Olympians, NFL and NBA athletes, and surgeons sharpen focus, improve decision-making, and regulate stress. Through targeted brainwave training, this research-backed technology is unlocking peak performance for everyday people too.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 254 min read


The Antidote to Personal Pain
When we're drowning in our own pain, the last thing we think to do is serve others — yet research shows it may be the most powerful antidote. Serving others releases mood-boosting chemicals, reduces isolation, and restores purpose. Even Viktor Frankl, surviving the Holocaust, found that lifting others sustained him through unimaginable suffering. When we give, we receive far more in return.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 257 min read


The Comparison Trap
Comparing yourself to others feels natural — but it's a cycle that quietly erodes self-worth, fuels anxiety, and breeds loneliness. Social media makes it worse, flooding us with highlight reels that distort reality. The antidote isn't avoiding all comparison — it's redirecting your focus inward, celebrating your own progress, and measuring yourself only against who you were yesterday.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 256 min read


The Paralyzing Effects of Self-Doubt
Self-doubt doesn't just silence your inner confidence — it quietly damages your most important relationships. From avoiding hard conversations to seeking constant reassurance, unchecked self-doubt creates disconnection and insecurity. The good news? With self-awareness, open communication, and self-compassion, you can break the cycle and build the confidence you deserve.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 255 min read


The Struggle to Stay Motivated
THE STRUGGLE TO STAY MOTIVATED
Do you find yourself struggling to find motivation to complete challenging tasks? Maybe you look at your daily to-do list and your eyes glaze over as you contemplate how to find the energy to even begin. The danger is that the shame of your lack of motivation becomes a block to re-commitment and becomes a negative cycle of personal paralysis and discouragement.
Solid research has been done on how to stimulate and motivate people to identify and

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 255 min read


Why Is Our Happiness Slipping?
The World Happiness Report reveals an alarming drop in US well-being — especially among those under 30, who wouldn't even rank in the top 60 globally. Research points to a common thread: declining faith, weakened relationships, and an outsized focus on career and financial success. The antidote is simpler than we think — reconnect with others, cultivate spirituality, and serve.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 252 min read


EFT Couples Therapy
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) helps couples build secure emotional bonds by identifying negative patterns, unmet attachment needs, and ineffective communication. Rather than placing blame, EFT guides partners toward deeper understanding and compassion for each other. Backed by substantial research, it helps couples rebuild trust, improve communication, and rediscover lasting intimacy and connection.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 253 min read


What Is Your Partner’s Greatest Attachment Need?
In the middle of a heated argument, one question can change everything: What is missing for them? Attachment needs — security, comfort, acceptance, trust, and connection — are the emotional requirements for a secure relationship. When you openly acknowledge your partner's unmet need in a tense moment, tension melts. Meeting these needs consistently builds resilience, security, and lasting fulfillment.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 253 min read


Why is Forgiveness So Difficult?
Forgiveness feels like surrender — of our pain, our need for justice, our pride. But it isn't about excusing harm or forgetting what happened. It's about freeing yourself from the weight of resentment. As we acknowledge our own imperfections, our capacity for empathy and compassion grows. Forgiveness is ultimately not for them — it's for you.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 252 min read


The Power of Women With Quiet Confidence
True influence doesn't require volume or dominance — it requires conviction anchored in purpose. Many women silence themselves out of fear of rejection or conflict, yet underneath both silence and protest is the same longing: I want to matter. I want to feel safe. When women discover they can speak honestly and remain connected, secure voices emerge — and secure voices change families.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 254 min read


The Blessings of Intentionally Seeking
Just as corrective lenses bring clarity to our physical vision, five divinely appointed tools — scripture, modern revelation, prayer, temple attendance, and the sacrament — sharpen our spiritual sight. When used intentionally and daily, they bring the gifts of peace, discernment, Christ's light, and understanding. To find more of Christ, we must become intentional seekers.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 2512 min read


What is the Joy of Our Redemption?
Easter is often celebrated with eggs and baskets, but the most miraculous event in history deserves deeper reflection. Through Christ's atoning sacrifice, we are offered justification, redemption, and sanctification — each a gift that frees us from sin, rescues us from spiritual death, and transforms us into something more. The joy of our redemption is accessed simply by coming unto Him.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 259 min read


Your Choice: Paralysis or Progression
When a team of smoke jumpers lost radio contact with their dispatcher, they waited seven hours for instructions rather than moving forward. A fire chief later showed them that just 50 yards down any path, the signal was clear. The lesson: don't let fear paralyze you. Start moving, and course corrections will come.

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Apr 2512 min read
What Is Love?
Question: I had lunch with my friends the other day and we got into a crazy argument about how to define love. One friend said it is a feeling that comes and goes. Another friend disagreed and said once you love someone it never goes away. My recently divorced friend got a bit emotional and said she now believes love never happened in her marriage. She said, “How could someone love you, and yet be so dismissive of you?” I was left feeling a bit lost, and this sent me on a mis

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Mar 12 min read
Struggling to Find My Voice
Question: Dr. Debi, I’ve always struggled to speak up in my marriage. I love my husband, and he’s a good man, but when I try to share that something hurts or bothers me, I either get emotional and it comes out wrong—or I shut down completely. I don’t want to create conflict, but I also don’t want to keep silencing myself. How do I find my voice without damaging the relationship? Answer: What you’re describing is so common—and so human. When your heart perceives even a small r

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Mar 12 min read
Ask Dr. Debi December Edition
Question: I have been away at college, and I haven’t been home since August. I’m in my second year and live with 3 others in campus housing. My dormmates are so excited to go home during Christmas break to see their families. They all talk about how much fun it will be to sleep in their own room, to connect with their siblings and cousins, and spend time with people they have missed being with. I feel the opposite and feel so guilty for feeling this way. My family is emotiona

Dr. Debi Gilmore LMFT
Mar 14 min read
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